As Thanksgiving approaches, many families are busy planning menus, coordinating travel, and preparing for the big feast. While the turkey, stuffing, and pumpkin pie are important (and delicious) traditions, this cherished holiday offers something even more valuable—a perfect opportunity to think about, discuss, and preserve your family’s legacy.
In this article, you’ll discover practical ways to capture family stories during your holiday gathering, learn how to start meaningful legacy conversations without awkwardness and understand how to transform these precious moments into a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that protects your family’s values and assets for generations to come. This year, consider using your Thanksgiving gathering as a springboard for the meaningful conversations that can shape your family’s future.
The Heart of Legacy Planning: More Than Just Money
When most people think about legacy planning, they often focus solely on financial assets. But true legacy planning encompasses much more. It’s about preserving your family’s stories, values, traditions, and the wisdom gained through generations. After working with families to support them with their estate planning and being there at the end of life, we’ve learned that these are the things that matter most. Values, insights, stories, and experiences, plus sentimental items, are almost always more important to families than financial assets, though, of course, money matters as well.
Those moments around the Thanksgiving table, sharing old family recipes, telling stories about ancestors, or discussing what matters most to your family, are the building blocks of a meaningful legacy. The Thanksgiving holiday, with its focus on gratitude and family togetherness, provides an ideal setting to explore these deeper aspects of your legacy.
Using Holiday Gatherings to Plan for the Future
With a little planning, Thanksgiving can be a great time to discuss the future. These conversations don’t have to be formal or heavy—they can emerge naturally from your holiday interactions:
Talk About Family Values: When expressing gratitude (a Thanksgiving tradition), encourage family members to share what they value most about being part of the family. These discussions can help inform how you structure your estate plan to reflect and perpetuate these values.
Discuss Family Philanthropy: If giving back is important to your family, use this time to talk about causes that matter to everyone. This can lead to meaningful discussions about charitable giving and how to incorporate it into your legacy plan.
Address Family Dynamics: Holiday gatherings often reveal family dynamics that should be considered in your estate planning. Who are the peacemakers? Who might need additional support? Understanding these dynamics can help you create a plan that promotes family harmony rather than conflict.
Bring Up Your Own Planning: If you’ve recently completed your own estate planning process, or plan to before the end of the year, or early next year, this is a great time to bring up your plans. Consider saying: “Because I want to make sure that everything is as easy as it can be for you all, if something happens to me, I’m doing/did a kind of estate planning called Life & Legacy Planning, and I’d love to share about it with you because you’ll all be impacted. Are you open to having a conversation about that, and what we all want to happen for ourselves if we become incapacitated or when we die?”
Understanding your family’s values, philanthropic interests, and dynamics isn’t just about having nice conversations—it’s about gathering crucial information that will help you create a Life & Legacy Plan that truly serves your family and preserves harmony for generations to come. For more information about Life & Legacy Planning, book a call with us.
Capturing Your Family’s Story
Thanksgiving can encourage storytelling. As families gather and reminisce, precious memories and important family history often emerge. But without intentional effort to preserve these stories, they can be lost to time. Here are some ways to capture these valuable moments:
Record Your Family’s Food Heritage: That special stuffing recipe from your grandmother isn’t just about ingredients—it’s about family history. Document not just the recipe but the story behind it. Why is it important? How has it been adapted over generations? Who taught it to whom? If your relative is still alive, consider asking them to write out the recipe with important notes. Having something in their handwriting can be very special for the younger generations.
Create a Family Interview Tradition: Designate time after dinner for family interviews. Have younger family members ask older ones about their childhood, important life lessons, or family history. Record these conversations (with permission) using your phone or video camera. It doesn’t have to be complicated.
Share Family Artifacts: Bring out old family photos, letters, or heirlooms. These physical items often spark stories and discussions about family history and values. Use these moments to explain why certain items are meaningful and what they represent in your family’s journey.
Our Life & Legacy Planning process includes a legacy interview, so your family’s traditions are captured.
Making Legacy Planning Part of Your Holiday Tradition
The key to successful legacy planning is making it an ongoing process, not a one-time event. Consider establishing new Thanksgiving traditions that support this goal. Here are a few ideas:
Create a Family Time Capsule: Each year, have family members contribute something meaningful to a time capsule—letters, photos, or small items that represent the year’s important moments.
Start a Family Mission Statement: Work together to create and update a family mission statement that reflects your shared values and goals. This can guide both current decisions and future legacy planning.
Document Family Medical History: While families are together, take time to update your family medical history. This information is crucial for future generations and can inform healthcare decisions.
Remember that legacy planning isn’t a one-time task but an ongoing journey that can be woven into your family’s holiday traditions each year. By incorporating these intentional practices into every Thanksgiving gathering, you create a natural way to capture and preserve what matters most while building a stronger foundation for your family’s future.
How We Help You Create a Lasting Legacy
While Thanksgiving conversations are valuable for legacy planning, they’re just the beginning. To truly protect your family’s legacy and ensure your wishes are carried out, you need professional guidance and support to create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan. Our Life & Legacy Planning process goes beyond traditional estate planning to capture not just your assets, but your values, wisdom, and family story. We help ensure that the conversations you have around the Thanksgiving table become part of a lasting legacy that benefits generations to come.
Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation with us to learn more.
This article is a service of Kendra Strong-Tehrani at Strong Law. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. You can begin by calling our office today to schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session.
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